Chinese Family always give the most important to the son, especially the first one of the family. Because, he will be the one who pass the surname to his kids, unlike daughter. She's one day will marry out, and her kids follow her husband's surname.
Many Chinese families, therefore, don't treat their kids equally and always give some pressure to the daughter.
My parent's friend, they always talk about their son and very proud of him in which he play 'Judo' (kind of martial art), more than their daughter who graduated school of law and work with the famous law company!!!
When I talked to her, I found out that her lack of confident when she was young due to what's their parents do. Since they listen to her little brother most of the time and don't listen to her. Agreed with her brother's opinion which she also gave them similar opinion before him but they don't even care.
This kind of unequal treat between daughter and brother isn't just happen recently, but it deep down in Chinese root. Even though many parents now a day say treat their kids equally, but if you ask daughter...9 out of 10, would give you the similar answer.
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